Schema therapy in 800 words
A short, honest introduction to schema therapy. What it is, where it came from, and why it helps explain the patterns you keep running in love.
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The four archetypes you're not
Most relationship archetype frameworks name your type. The four you are not tell you almost as much. They trace the outline of what your pattern keeps refusing.
The pattern beneath your last three relationships
Why do I keep dating the same type of person? Three relationships in, a shape starts to surface. Naming it is what changes what happens next.
Why the partner outside your pattern feels wrong at first
The good partner can feel boring, off, not quite right. That is not a verdict on them. It is the cost of meeting someone your body has not been trained to recognise.
The loop is a choice, not a default
The pattern you keep recreating in love is not broken. It is learned. Seeing it is the moment it stops running you and starts becoming something you choose.